Would you like a better relationship with your friends? Have success with your personal finance? Love to have time for some exercise? Or do you just wish things could be better in certain areas of your life, but there just seems to be some kind of internal resistance/barrier.  People who are successful seem to talk and stand a different way, they have a confidence. Would you like to change your state of mind & your state of confidence for anything in front of you?  Here are for truths for a winning state of mind.

I call it the Villain inside of you

1.   Lives in the News:

Tip 1, listening to TV News and Radio gets inside of you, it is constantly telling you the world is a mess, 85% is all bad news  therefore it sells, but it damages us as people. I challenge you to go on a one week news diet where you listen to know negative information at least from TV, social Media and Radio and feel how empowered you would become.

Tip 2, Weaknesses: we get told to work on our weaknesses, this is the biggest liar ever, it makes you focus on the negative and disempowers you, and we are all good at something. Find it and get even better. Just don’t get bogged down with what you are not good at

2.     Bad Advice:

Tip 1, Do not allow those who are not ambitious be it friends or family members to speak into your life or give you advice. Go seek those that either are successful or hungry to do well in an area.  Be careful where you get advice from and who you are hanging with. Fly with the eagles and see less of those who well speak when they know nothing or keep you down. Often they don’t mean to, sometimes they can even think they are been helpful.

Tip 2, Always ask yourself Why you want to do what it is  \you want to do, find out your why, really search out your why, not to impress your peers that’s superficial. Maybe you don’t want to feel useless or incapable so you can have more choices in your life than you have had up to now, you want to later be in a place to have more control in your life, unlike some adults you see around you, for your future children. When you find out your why you can crush the villain

Tip3, who do you want to be, the best you for? Think if you were emotionally sound, financially doing well had a great relationship. Who would you want to help next?

3.   Your body and words.

When your state is down, when your confidence is down what are you saying, what do you look like? Does this look-look like you have confidence? Example, shoulders back, face smiling and looking at you in the eyes, they are confident.  Not shoulders down that says I’m stressed, negative or complaining. Although you don’t deny how you are feeling, you can say its difficult now but I’m working on it, I know this feeling will pass. Don’t get into a conversation about how bad it is because it will pull you down, unless its someone who can give you wise advice and encouragement don’t go there. Just have a couple of worthwhile people you confide in, not all your mates. It all will affect your performance which affects your ability to succeed. So for this week’s challenge think about your words and how you hold yourself, your body. 

4.    Break the mould:

 Do something different step out of the normal, forgive who you need to. Don’t wait years to change or work on your personal growth start now.

When you recognise the villain inside of you, the negative chatter that goes on inside your head that wants to take you of track towards your goal, but instead you know the “why”  you want what you do it will then motivate you to shake the liars off, so you can work on yourself. Begin to speak differently, watch your words. When old fears and stories come back in your head. Go back to the 4 things and know the 4 things you need to do to make an impact in your life and get some new positive truths and begin to declare those instead.